Happiness comes from change.
You want to change your job so you can make more money.
You want to change your eating habits so you can be healthier.
You want to change your temperament so you don’t upset those you love.
But why isn’t change often times easy?
It isn’t easy for a few reasons:
Every action we take in life needs a motivation under it. And motivation comes from the alignment of what you really want to one of two things: the anticipated pleasure of getting it or the concrete feeling of the pain of not getting it.
Here’s the thing, I don’t believe motivation is an issue. People see enough going on around them to feel the need for change.
The bigger issue is that people lock-in fewer paths to reach their desired change.
Let’s take the desire to change your job because you need to earn more money as an example.
I have seen so many people tell me that they’ve applied, applied and applied for jobs they really want and believe they qualify for but no one calls them in for an interview! Broken in despair of rejection, they give up; they stick to their current job and just forget about the goal entirely.
This is unfortunate.
“The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result” - Tony Robbins
Here’s the thing: if you don’t put a lot of conscious focus behind it, your brain is wired to identify easy steps to a particular goal based on the information it is aware of: when you want a new job, your brain tells you, “ok, we know that we need a resume” so you build one, “we know that we need to apply for the positions we want” so you apply, and because your brain tells you that you are the best of the best, you sit back and wait for an offer. It pumps you up so high that when you face rejection, you give up entirely.
Don’t fall for this.
You have every ability within you to get that desired job. It’s just that you’re stuck in a tunnel-vision of how to get it.
You haven’t asked yourself: who are my co-applicants? What skills and experiences do they have that I don’t? What can I do to get those skills and experiences before I apply? Maybe I need to make a longer-term plan to get this position? Is there another job I could take that might be a stepping-stone to this one?
There are literally so many things you can do to get there. You just have to break the pattern of your thinking from paths that are fewer to ones that are abundant.
Take care. See you next time.
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